Welcome to the Infidelity Recovery Center
The Infidelity Recovery Center is designed with researched, tested, practical and effective strategies and tactics to help you most quickly and powerfully change the course of infidelity in your relationship. Please start with the 48 Hour Infidelity Boot Camp.
Start Here: 48 Hour Infidelity Boot Camp
This is where you start. You will learn the 3 Key first steps in Infidelity Recovery: 1. Get in control of your feelings and thoughts 2. Begin to understand the type of affair and 3. Stop doing what doesn’t work.
Affair #1: My Marriage Made Me Do It
Are YOU blamed for the affair? Is your spouse cheating because he’s stated that the marriage is awful? Is there an undercurrent of hostility? Dig into the “My Marriage Made Me Do It” type of affair.
Affair #2: I Can’t Say No
We are all grabbed by something. Something “out there” pulls us and seems to demand energy and focus. One in an “I Can’t Say No” type of affair claims to be grabbed – perhaps obsessed and seemingly can’t let go.
Affair #3: I Don’t Want to Say No
The word narcissism, addressed in this Module, is thrown around much these days. Crucial to understanding this type is the differentiation you make between the active and passive forms of “I Don’t Want to Say No.”
Affair #4: I Fell Out of Love and just love being in love
This type of affair centers around personal needs for attention. There is also, obviously, an emphasis on feeling a particular “high” that is traditionally associated with the romantic type of love or infatuation. This is the roller coaster ride type of affair. Hang on!
Affair #5: I Want to Get Back at Him/Her (Revenge Affair)
This is the Revenge Affair. But be careful! Revenge runs the continuum from resentment to rage. Distinctions here are CRITICAL before you begin to address this type of Infidelity.
Affair #6: I Need to Prove My Desirability
An underlying sense of inadequacy and fear may precipitate an affair. The flavors of the feeling of inadequacy vary greatly from person to person, depending usually on a history of either subtle sexual confusion or the more dramatic secret past traumas.
Affair #7: I Want to Be Close to Someone.. but can’t stand intimacy
Where does the tension go when someone wants an intimate relationship and yet wants to maintain autonomy and emotional distance? The balancing of this tension is often expressed in a long term affair marked by high ambivalence.