Affair #3: I Don’t Want to Say No Module
The word narcissism is thrown around much these days. To be honest, we all have a narcissistic streak. Sometimes we are self oriented to the exclusion of others and the surrounding world. This module digs beneath the surface to uncover the dynamics of “I Don’t Want to Say No.” Crucial to understanding this type is the differentiation you make between the active and passive forms of “I Don’t Want to Say No.”
“I Don’t Want to Say No” Present Situation
Take a deep breath. I want you to stand back emotionally and take a few minutes to reflect on what is happening in your life that is not working, especially in regards to the “I Don’t Want to Say No” type of affair. Spend some time with these questions. Let them sink in. Be honest in your appraisal.
“I Don’t Want to Say No” Shifts
A major question in the “I Don’t Want to Say No” type of affair is, How much is someone willing tolerate? This may seem obvious, but it is not. Use this checklist to measure your shifts, especially in the area of fear (fear of losing is a big one.) Confusion and feeling trapped also are common in this type of affair. Begin to be aware and free yourself to act in a way that serves everyone.
Use Consequence Em
It is extremely difficult to reason with an “I Don’t Want to Say No’ cheating spouse. In reality, words, talk and better “communication” do little good. The cheating spouse typically twists words, phrases and meaning to fit their own frame of reference… and you often end up feeling like something is wrong with you.
Evaluating Consequence Em
How do you know when Consequence is working? To what degree is it effective? What are you learning? How do you respond to the response of your cheating spouse? And more…
I don’t want to say no Reveiw and Benefits
Thoughtfully evaluate on a 1-5 scale what you have learned and implemented in this Module. Are you able to “see through” your spouse? …and smile?