Affair #1: My Marriage Made Me Do It
Are YOU blamed for the affair? Is your spouse cheating because he’s stated that the marriage is awful? Is there an undercurrent of hostility? Dig into the “My Marriage Made Me Do It” type of affair.
Evaluate Your Present Situation
Take time to evaluate the motives for your cheating spouse. What drives them? Take time to reflect, write down and examine carefully the context for the cheating.
My Marriage Made Me Do It Shifts
Examine the shifts you are making or desire to make. Note when they happen. Keep them on the top of your mind each day. Live with them for the next few days. Focus.
Use Messaging
Initially use Messaging as an experiment. There are 15 other skills you can employ as well. Messaging may not be the end all for you with your spouse. You are changing the rules of your interaction (game) with your spouse so you are not sure of the results. Pay close attention to the outcome.
Evaluating your message
Take time to debrief. Do this during a quiet moment. Or, share what happened with a trusted friend, mentor or coach. Allow these questions to guide you…
My Marriage Made me Do It Reveiw and Benefits
This checklist enables you to review and continue to improve regarding the “My Marriage Made Me Do It” type of affair. Change may occur rapidly or slowly, depending on a number of factors. Change may be subtle. One of the purposes of these modules is to enable you to learn, make finer and finer distinctions so you don’t dwell in the land of la-la abstractions..